Wedding vows are probably the most sentimental part of any wedding ceremony. What many don't know is that it also is the meaty party of a ceremony because it cements the love and commitment of the couple on that special day. It is best practice to start your preparations with “the vows” so that they serve as your compass through the mire of wedding planning.
Often times, a bride and groom will be very gung-ho about write their own personalized vows as opposed to repeating the traditional “I do” speech. But, they leave this important detail until the very end of the wedding-planning process. At that point, they have become so caught up in the cumbersome wedding details that they throw out the idea and just rely on the old faithful “in sickness and in health… for richer or for poorer” wedding vows. Best practice says to start here.
When deciding on your wedding vows, it important for you to determine whether you prefer to recite the traditional vows characteristic of a Judeo-Christian wedding, if you prefer to recite something more fun and modern or if you would rather just create your own unique vows from scratch. Also remember that you can both say the same vows, or you can say completely different ones. It's your wedding, so it's your choice!
The bottom line is: decide this early on!
The following are simply examples of both traditional and modern vows.
If you'd like to go with the most traditional vows, here they are:
“(Name), wilt thou have this woman/man to be thy wedded wife/husband to live together after God's ordinance in the Holy Estate of matrimony? Wilt thou love her/him? Comfort her/him, honor and keep her/her, in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others keep thee only unto him/her as long as you both shall live?”
(Repeat) “I, (Name), take thee (Name), to be my wedding wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, 'til death do us part, according to God's ordinance; and thereto I pledge thee my troth.”
(Rings) “With this ring I thee wed; in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost. Amen”
Simple, Modern Vows
I, (name), affirm my love to you, (name), as I invite you to share my life. You are the most beautiful, smart, and generous person I have ever known, and I promise always to respect you. With kindness, unselfishness and trust, I will work by your side to create a wonderful life together. I take you (name) to be my lawful wife/husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health for as long as we both shall live.
Best Friend Vows
(Name), I love you. You are my best friend. Today I give myself to you in marriage. I promise to encourage and inspire you, to laugh with you, and to comfort you in times of sorrow and struggle.
I promise to love you in good times and in bad, when life seems easy and when it seems hard, when our love is simple, and when it is an effort. I promise to cherish you, and to always hold you in highest regard. These things I give to you today, and all the days of our life.
“Quite a Character” Vows
My love for you grows daily as I can feel yours for me doing the same. I am so proud of you and how quickly and convincingly you've grown in love with me. The amazing thing is how you continue to do so at a continuous yet focused pace. I know I'm quite a character and I can be a pain at times, but you've chosen to love me, to soar in love with me, to cater to me and my needs as well as to empower me when my batteries run low. This character wants to be your leading (lady/man). I promise never to upstage you or steal the show. Let us walk that red carpet of life together forever.
“You Fit” Wedding Vows
Being in love with you is joyous, exciting, challenging, rewarding, encouraging, inspiring and character building. You make sense. You fit. You are my “TRUE” type. The type that deep down I know I was created for. You've installed file cabinets and organizers into my psyche and now my thoughts and actions are translated in an exceptional optimal fashion.
It is an honor to protect and serve you, and I look forward to just being with you. Basically, I want to get so deep into ‘you' that I can literally feel what you feel, sense what you sense. I KNOW you do the same for me. You pay very close attention to the detail of the complex patterns that make up my illustrious tapestry. For the patterns that you're unaware of, you ask questions and diligently seek to know the true me and I freely offer myself as a book without a lock; a movie without censorship.
Thank you for volunteering to be the Love of my Life. I promise to never let you go. I am yours and you are mine forever.
“Priceless Love” Vow
You are loved in the way that Nelson loved Winnie; Cliff loved Claire; Solomon loved the Queen of Sheba. So this is me, expressing myself in a way that I never have.
Thank you for indirectly teaching me to be patient, kind, unselfish without being blind. For teaching me how to rise, and never to fall, praying that I do well in interviews and that I find parking spaces…
You are loved beyond the scope of the human language. I tried extending the language to compensate, but I could not… While some make others weak with their love, your love makes me so strong…
Thanks for the kisses, hugs, touches, advice, jokes, laughter, tears, fears, debates, Eskimo kisses, hand clasps and all of the gestures you've made toward me to display your love for me.
You are not cheap.
You are very expensive for me…
And I love you Pricelessly!!!
I trust that after seeing an example of wedding vows, you can now tackle this segment of wedding preparation with more confidence.
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