I notice that very often many western men comment on how Thai women can be quite jealous so in helping you with understanding Thai women I will tell you in this article why what seems like jealousy or paranoia has it’s roots deep in Thai culture.
Firstly I don’t want you to think that this is just an attack on Thai men because really they are only just a victim to years of Thai culture as well so we must be careful not to lay blame. To Thai men I ask you to consider if the shoe was on the other foot how would you feel..really try to put yourself in the same position as what I am about to tell you.
Thai culture has allowed the behavior of Thai men to have more than one wife
The fact is that Thai culture and society has allowed the behavior of Thai men to have more than one wife. Even though today it is frowned upon and the cause of such a high percentage of relationship and marital problems between Thai men and Thai women it still happens but it is not just as straight forward as a man being allowed to have two wives, it is a little more complicated than that.
In Thailand it is not really necessary to get a registered marriage
You see in Thailand it is not really necessary to get a registered marriage, very often the wedding ceremony performed in front of your social circle is enough to say you are married. In the eyes of everyone you are married. However, even though many do get an official or shall I say legal registration at a district office, it is not a celebratory affair just a signing of documents, witnessed and recorded for legal purposes. So many Thai men do not like to sign these papers for one reason or another, many feel it is a waste of time and cannot be bothered. The parents of both parties are not able to insist and so it goes unregistered.
What we tend to find is that this very often is the case in a first marriage when the couple are very young. With love stars in their eyes they will not bother with registration at a district office. Over the years the wife will do many things to support her husband and family helping him with business and all sorts of things and then one day the man will take a mistress/girlfriend and this is where the problems begin.
They may well have been married for 10 years or even more but there is no legal document to say so. When the new Thai girlfriend gets her claws into the man very often he will feel pressured to marry her and get it registered and she then has all the rights in the eyes of the law leaving the primary Thai wife with little rights to anything. I have seen many court cases and heard many stories of this over the years. Of course this sort of thing only really happens in the larger Cities in Thailand where there is property and assets at stake.
But this is just one issue for Thai women
It is all too common for many Thai men to take a girlfriend even though they are married. If they can afford it they will keep this going for years happily supporting both. One of the things in Thailand is the wearing of rings is not so readily practiced like the West and so it is often difficult to tell if someone is married or not. Quite often when you see an older Thai man with a younger Thai woman it is very likely his Thai girlfriend and not his Thai wife.
There is a true story of a man who lives on the outskirts of Bangkok who has 5 wives
In contrast though, there is a true story of a man who lives on the outskirts of Bangkok who has 5 wives and they all live together quite happily. He was interviewed on Television one time and was asked how he could keep such harmony in his household with 5 wives.
Perhaps then it is understandable why Thai women can be prone to bouts of jealousy
If you want to find out how this can help you if you have a Thai girlfriend or Thai wife and want to find out more about understanding Thai women just go to the Thai Girlfriend Advisor website where there are lots of interesting information and articles about having a relationship with a Thai woman.