Purpose: Your marriage is your most valuable asset. It is a place for love, children, and success and happiness: a pearl of great price. If it is your pearl of great price, then you will do everything necessary to reserve it. Polish your pearl!
"There is no more lovely, friendly and charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage" –Martin Luther
"With this ring I thee wed, with my body I thee worship, and with all my worldly good I the endow." –Wedding Vow, Book of Common Prayer
"Marriage resembles a pair of shears, so joined that they can not be separated; often moving in opposition directions, yet always punishing any one who comes between them." –Sydney Smith
"I married the first man I ever kissed. When I tell this to my children they are just about throw up." –Barbara Bush, first lady,
"So Boaz took Ruth, and she was his wife: and when he went in to her, the LORD made her conception, and she bare a son.
And the women said unto Naomi, Blessed [be] the LORD, which hath not left this day without a kinsman, that his name may be famous in Israel. And he shall be unto thee a restorer of [thy] life, and a nourisher of thine old age: for thy daughter in law, which loveth thee, which is better to thee than seven sons, hath borne him. And Naomi took the child, and laid it in her bosom, and became nurse unto it. And the women her neighbors gave it a name, saying, There is a son born to Naomi; And they called his name Obed: he [is] the father of Jesse, the father of David. Ruth: "4: 13-17
It Starts with Love
In the "Book of Ruth," after her husband dies, Ruth refuges to leave Naomi, her mother-in-law. Ruth says: "Entreat me not to leave thee, [or] to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people [shall be] my people, and thy God my God:
Where thou diest, will I die, and there will I be buried: the LORD do so to me, and more also, [ifought] but death part thee and me. "Ruth: 1: 16-17:
Ruth had Devotion
The fact that she had devotion is shown through her words.
She had possession to her husband, who died, and she had possession to his mother after he was dead. She could hightailed it home to her people, but she did not. Therefore she would have the same devotion to Boaz, her second husband who took her to wife since that, according to the Law, she would bring up Boaz's offspring to her first husband.
Love and Devotion are the Essentials of Marriage
Elizabeth Barrett Browning loved her husband as expressed in the following Sonnet from Sonnets from the Portuguese.
Her husband called her his little Portuguese because of her features.
How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of Being and ideal Grace.
I love thee to the level of everyday's
Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light.
I love thee freely, as men strive for Right;
I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise.
I love thee with the passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood's faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints, – I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life! – and, if God choose,
I will but love the better after death.
"What God had wrought, let no man put asunder." Is not that how it goes? No person should intrude upon the marriage of another.
We should all focus on the holy nature of marriage to preserve it.
Alienation of Affections
That's a legal term for a crime in some states. For example, if a doctor takes advantage of his position to entice another man's wife, he can go to jail, and / or, be sued and punished in civil court. I suppose that if a lady doctor enticed a husband of another woman, the same could happen to her. Whatever the legal ramifications, we should never entice a married person. We should respect marriage.
Fifty One Percent
That's what it takes to reserve a marriage. Each partner giving more than his or her share. When I retired, my wife, now of fifty-three years, said, "Now that you are retired, I'm retiring from cooking. So, I'm the cook now, except that if she sees me dragging, she steps in and does the cooking. I'm experienced too. My mother taught me to cook when I was very young. When she became ill when I was in high school, I did all the cooking.
I use to make the bed every morning. Every morning, my wife would remake the bed to her satisfaction. But she likened me to give it a try. Sometimes, I surprise her by doing the dishes. When I do, she always makes a big fuss about it. It only takes me three times as long to do the dishes as it does her.
I use to help my sisters do the dishes when I saw them bog down in the process. Nobody really likes to do dishes. At any rate, if you do not support your spouse in his or her activities, you are missing an essential part of marriage.
Do not Let Romance Ever Die
That sounds poetic to this writer so let's see if I can write a poem here.
In the primordial garden of Eden,
Adam said to Eve:
"I'll always love you Little One,
Although Satan did deceive.
"I'll go with you
Into earth's misery and despair.
Come follow me Little One,
Where you go, I'll be there. "
"Adam, you do not have to leave
This beautiful garden spot.
You did not take the forbidden fruit
That put me in this lot. "
The tears dripped down upon her breast,
Redness filled her eyes.
"You really should stay here with God,
And not listen to Satan's lies. "
"I'll eat the fruit that I might know
Between the good and bad.
Now, take my hand, Little One,
Let our hearts be glad. "
"I love you so, Dear Adam.
I know I always will.
No matter what's out in the world,
My love, you'll always feel. "
"So shall it be, Little One.
Now let us make our way.
Our love will prove our love for God,
And he will guide us still. "
So, hand in hand they made their way
Into the barren land.
They collected in the inhospitable earth
And there, they make their stand.
They raised the children God keep to them.
They taught them love and grace.
And that, because of their great love,
They created the human race.
And God looked down on them
And blessed their little clan
That filled the earth with children
According to His plan.
So That Should About Cover It
To succeed in marriage: Keep your mind and body clean and pure, and your heart full of love. Raise children in God's light and nurture them with love and affection. Teach them the way they should go. Clamp your mouth shut when you are full of anger lest your tongue comes out and offends those you love. Never go to bed in anger. Dissipate your anger by running up a mountain shouting, Boy am I angry! When you get tired of shouting, go home and tell your spouse you love him or her.
Give more than your 51%. If your spouse needs extra help, give 100%.
For The Little Children
Sacity Squirrel looked down from the top of the tall old oak tree, her reddish tail flashing in the sun. She was watching for that new squirrel she had seen on the forest floor, pushing his nose under last fall's fallen leaves, searching for whatever he might find to eat.
Minnity Squirrel said, "I know who you are looking for, Sacity. You are looking for Rentac."
Sacity put her nose into the air, "Who's Rentac? I do not know a squirrel named Rentac. Beside, I'm a lady now. I do not go looking for boy squirrels. What mother taught me. "
"Sacity!" Said Minnity.
"Well, Minnity, maybe I did look for him just that once."
Sacity looked over the ground below again. She could not see Rentac. Minnity ran off and Sacity stand on her hind legs. She was still looking for Rentac.
Sacity near tumbled over backwards.
It was Rentac who scared her. He laughed. She did not.
Rentac put his face between his front feet, his front teeth shining, and said, "Sorry I scared you, Sacity." "You were looking for me, were not you?"
"No !: she said. Sacity ran down the tree.
Rentac chased after her.
Sacity scrambled under a log.
Rentac followed her.
She ran back up the tree clear to the top.
Rentac still chased her.
Up and down they went all that day.
Some weeks later, Minnity saw Sacity with two baby squirrels. She said, "I knew you were looking at Rentac that day!"
"Well, maybe I was," said Sacity. Then she scampered off with her babies.
Copyright 2001-2005, John Taylor Jones, Ph.D.
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