For a married man nothing is quite as challenging as dealing with a mean wife. When you come home each day to be greeted by a cantankerous woman who once loved you very much it makes life incredibly challenging. Most men in your position reach a point where they just can’t take it anymore and divorce becomes the obvious option. You have a family to think of though and if you’re still in love with your wife you have a life changing decision to make. You can either walk away and work on rebuilding your life or you can find a way to help your wife understand how her behavior affects you and guide her towards changing it.
When you are dealing with a mean wife it’s expected that you’re going to have to eventually withdraw from her. For some men that’s primarily felt in emotional ways. They no longer say anything positive to their spouse and they don’t feel connected to them at all anymore. For these men, their marriage is simply not what it used to be. It’s a shell of the relationship it once was and is now more about two people living together to raise their children.
Other men withdraw physically as well. These men spend as much time as they possibly can away from their wife. Being around a wife who is moody and miserable all the time is no way to live. So they come up with endless excuses for why they can’t be at home more. In essence, they are just trying to save their own self worth and sanity.
Regardless of how you are dealing with your mean wife, you obviously wish it could be different. The first step towards realizing that dream is to address the issue head on. You have to figure out what changed within your wife that makes her treat you the way she does now.
In many cases, the reason a wife becomes so moody is that she resents her spouse deeply. Couples take on roles as the marriage matures and changes. This is never quite as prevalent as when children arrive. The woman almost always becomes the primary caregiver and her life generally is impacted more. If the husband doesn’t work towards helping balance that out, she’ll become even more resentful and it will definitely result in a shift in regards to how she treats him.
Sit down with your wife and have a direct discussion about the state of your marriage. Don’t be accusatory and don’t create conflict. Your goal here is to get to the bottom of what is bothering her. Encourage her to talk to you and assure her that all you want is to have a happy, satisfying marriage for both of you.
Your wife needs to be able to express what she’s feeling with you. She also needs for you to help her get past what she’s feeling for she can feel close to you again as well. This is truly an issue that you need to work on as a couple if you hope to overcome it.