“My wife has fallen out of love with me!” On your wedding day you never imagined you would ever hear yourself saying that, did you? Back then you felt that your wife and you loved each other immeasurably and that your bond was unbreakable. Now you’ve come to the realization that she’s not in love with you anymore. Perhaps she has told you that she does still love you but it’s not the same. That undeniable passion and the emotional connection that was always there have vanished. Even though she may not have told you that she wants a divorce, your mind can’t help but go there. You’re scared and you have every right to be. The future of your marriage is at stake and you need to act now before it’s too late and you lose the most important person in the world to you.
People fall out of love for a variety of reasons. For some it’s the fact that the thrill is gone. They don’t feel the same drive to please their partner anymore. For others their love gets buried beneath a mountain of resentment. If you’re critical of your wife or you continually find fault with things she does, she’s definitely going to put up an emotional wall. Some women fall out of love with their husbands because they just start feeling unappreciated. If you’ve stopped telling your wife how much you value her as a life partner that can certainly affect how she feels about you.
One of the best ways to rekindle the love in your marriage is to start expressing your own feelings more. Your wife may have withdrawn into herself emotionally because she’s felt you pulling away. She doesn’t want to make herself vulnerable by wearing her emotions on her sleeve. That’s why it’s so helpful if you start expressing what you feel more. If she hears and sees you opening up to her, she’ll feel much more comfortable doing the same. You shouldn’t overwhelm her by pouring out everything you feel in one setting. Instead, start slowly by telling her how much you love her and then go into more detail each and every day. This can really change the entire dynamic of any marriage, even one that feels as though it’s on the brink of imminent divorce.
Actions certainly can speak louder than words and that’s often the case with a couple who is struggling with their connection. You can show your wife how much you need her and want her in your life by doing things for her. Obviously, buying her flowers or taking her out for a nice dinner on the town come to mind, but it can reach beyond those things. Run a warm bubble bath for her in the evening, or cook her dinner a few nights a week. You should do anything that you know will put a smile on her face. By becoming a more attentive and caring husband, you will help her to feel closer to you again.